I Can Barely Take Care of Myself, Jen Kirkman [the false prince txt] 📗

not one of the “popular girls.” I wasn’t rich but I wasn’t a nerd. I had saved up some babysitting money and purchased a Benetton T-shirt. I think that T-shirt caught her eye and she assumed I was one of them.

Our assignment was to bring a gift for Meredith and to come dressed up as our favorite celebrity for the big event of the party—the costume contest. I came dressed as Groucho Marx. Now, I was not some eccentric kid who watched Marx Brothers movies. (I’m not even an eccentric adult who watches Marx Brothers movies.) I didn’t know the difference between Groucho, Karl, and Richard Marx. I thought Groucho was the stork from the Vlasic Pickles commercial (“That’s the best-tasting pickle I ever hoid.”) My mom had explained to me that the stork was based on Groucho Marx, a very famous comedian. I figured if he was very famous, then everyone at Meredith Renner’s twelfth birthday party would know him. My mom said, “Your father has an old suit that would be perfect for this.” I wore a wig and a pair of those Groucho glasses with the fake nose and mustache attached. Now you know why they sell those in novelty stores. It’s a hot item for tween girls on their way to the birthday party of the year.

The Popular Girls were not wearing costumes when I arrived in full Marx mode. I only brought pajamas. I had no in-between clothes. I didn’t win the costume contest. The prize went to Kayley, who revealed that up the sleeve of her Esprit top she had on ten rubber bracelets. This was her Madonna costume. Meredith got a stomachache right before it was time to blow out the candles on her birthday cake and she said that everybody had to go home. Then she said, “Jen, you call your mom first.” I was dumb enough to believe that the slumber party really ended until I found out on Monday that after “some girl who came dressed as a guy” left—the real fun began. The Popular Boys were invited over for cake and everybody watched the movie Girls Just Want to Have Fun.

I learned something that day. If you put any effort into anything you do and have a strong sense of self to the point where you don’t even question your choices before you walk out of the house—you’re a fucking weirdo. You’ll have a better time at parties if you look and act just like all the other kids—or else you’re going to have to call your mother for a ride, or twenty years later if you’re still in the wrong costume, you call your friend Sharon to go out for dollar tacos.

Since kids seem to be the only legitimate excuse that adults get to give for leaving parties, weddings, and work early, I had to make up something plausible to get myself out of Exposed-Breast World. I said that I just realized I’d locked myself out of my apartment and my friend had the keys, but she had to give them to me in the next five minutes or else a secret bomb would explode the world.

I felt slightly self-righteous about the fact that the parking lot was full of SUVs with car seats in the back. Not one Toyota Prius or van fueled by cornstarch and weed. Every mother at that party was sooooo concerned with her child’s future (We have to breast-feed or else their immune systems will be compromised!), and so concerned with my unborn children’s future (You aren’t having kids? But if people don’t have kids, how will the human race survive?), yet none of them cared enough to drive a car that didn’t pollute the air that their precious little Martas would breathe once they were old enough to know better about calling me out on my adult acne.

I personally don’t believe that the world needs any more people. We are overpopulated as it is and since the advent of the Doritos Locos Tacos Supreme, many folks in our population are the size of two people. But I’m not trying to act like some environmentalist hero just because I don’t have a kid. It is not why I’m making the decision, it just happens to be a nice perk of my decision. I did read, however, that even if you do drive a Prius, you are in no way balancing out the carbon footprint that having a kid leaves on this planet. I either read that or I just believe that. Who cares? I’m probably right. Anyway, apart from being the person who turns the switch in the toxic plastics factory with the deregulated smokestack to “on”—having a kid is the worst thing you can do to the environment. Still, I’d never tell someone that at a party because I am a polite adult, not a self-righteous thirteen-year-old (anymore). I was that cashier at Roche Bros. grocery store who rolled her eyes when forced to ask, “Paper or plastic?” I used to stomp my Doc-Martened foot and yell at my boss, “But if we don’t give them an option and just give them paper, we could save this world!” I was also that cashier who let out an audible sigh and uttered, “Oh, that’s real responsible,” under her breath after the customer chose plastic.

I like to leave that inner thirteen-year-old girl at home when I go to sophisticated tea parties. She’s even more of a buzzkill than a circle of mommies who, instead of asking, “Would you prefer paper or plastic,” ask, “Would you prefer a baby or a lifetime of never knowing real love?”

Sharon met me at a new Mexican restaurant in town where the seats hang from the ceiling—like hammocks for one. The waiter kept telling us it was “really chill” but it wasn’t that chill, because if you talk with your hands, you start spinning around and it feels like you’re a potted plant in a macramé ceiling holder. (If