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generous and to give others from what we have, even if we have a real need for it. When the early Muslims of the city of Al-Madinah received refugees from the city of Makkah, they divided their entire wealth with them in half, sharing with them their houses, farms, animals and money.

 

11- Friendship: Islam takes friendship to a higher level, referring to Muslims as brothers and sisters, and expecting them to treat each other as such. A Muslim is expected to wish for others that which they wish for themselves. Also, a Muslim is expected to give honest advice to friends and to be there for them and help them whenever possible. Muslims are forbidden from abandoning or boycotting a friend with whom they have had a disagreement for more than three days. After the three days, they are expected to forgive their friend and resume the friendship.

 

 

 

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The Married Couple in Ramadan

 

 

 

 

 

The blessed month of Ramadan carries sublime implications for human life in general and the marital life in particular. It is a great opportunity for the spouses to draw closer to each other and for all family members to maintain kinship ties.

 

Gathering on obedience and worship in an atmosphere of faith increases love and affection in marital life. It is a true opportunity to lead a sublime marital life.

 

There are wonderful lessons in the month of Ramadan that the spouses can benefit from, including: Patience, generosity, forbearance, tolerance and other general noble morals.

 

The spouses should persevere to benefit from this month from the outset, so that the goals and wisdoms behind the legislation of this act of worship during that month is achieved. They should consider the blessed month a training course.

 

They should learn the following from this training course:

 

- Open-mindedness, acceptance of each other and mutual sharing of feelings.

 

- Just as you gather to have the Iftaar (fast-breaking) and Suhoor (pre-dawn) meals, you should gather on obeying Allah, and plan together for happiness and a life that pleases Allah The Almighty

 

- You should care to show your feelings of love, affection and closeness. The couple should try to remove any misunderstandings. Always remember the Hadeeth of our beloved Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ): "When anyone of you is observing fasting, he should neither use obscene language nor raise his voice; and if anyone reviles him or tries to quarrel with him, he should say, 'I am fasting.'"

 

- Treat the children and family members generously and kindly, take care of them and avoid raising your voices and getting irritable. Remember the Hadeeth in which the noble Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ), said: "Whoever draws nearer to Allah by performing any of the acts of goodness in this month shall receive the same reward as is there for performing an obligatory deed at any other time; and whoever observes an obligatory deed in this month shall receive the reward of performing seventy obligations at any other time."

 

- Practical training on having sublime morals, starting from forgiving other's faults, tolerance, apologizing, forbearance and keenness to do the acts of the Sunnah as well as other Sharee'ah etiquettes.

 

- Generosity and giving to the poor and the needy. The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ), was generous and he would his highest degree of generosity during Ramadan.

 

Forms of spousal convergence during Ramadan

 

*Gather on obedience:

- The spouses should rightly seize the opportunity of this blessed month and make a plan together to observe the prominent of righteous deeds: recitation of the Noble Quran, giving in charity, observing the voluntary night prayer, supplication, performing the prayer in the Masjid (Mosque), and so on. The husband should teach his wife and children the virtues of this great month. He should revise with them the rulings and etiquettes of fasting and urge them to give in charity, recite the Quran, maintain kinship ties and do other righteous deeds.

 

*For women: How to love your husband in Ramadan?:

 

1- Do not be stingy in showing your love for your husband daily, just as you offer him daily delicious meals.

 

2- Do not think that love entails that you offer big material sacrifices. Rather, you need to offer greater moral and spiritual sacrifices. So, be morally and spiritually generous with your husband and you will own him.

 

3- Thank your husband for his care, kindness and generosity. Do not treat him on the basis that he is obliged to take care of you, for this will diminish his care for you as time passes.

 

4- Be fully convinced that gold, money, authority and a luxurious lifestyle are valueless when there is no love. A life which is full of love is the successful marital life. Without love, the chances of a successful marriage are almost non-existent.

 

5- Grant your husband a different Ramadan as well as a different, or rather wonderful, marital relationship during this blessed month. You should seek the reward from Allah The Almighty for each word, deed and smile. 

 

Safiyya's confessions

 

 

 

Safiyya:

Lawyer, mom, researcher, internet junkie, music lover.

 

 

10 Challenges I Face Every day During Ramadan: 

 

 

"What? You fast from dawn to sunset? Whoa, how do you do it? No water either, not even a sip!?!".

 

 

          Welcome to my world folks, the world of a Muslim during the sacred month of Ramadan.

 

The Islamic calendar is lunar based, so Ramadan shifts by approximately 11 days every year. Fasting during the winter months is easy with dawn being so late and sunset being so early. Fasting during the summer months is difficult, dawn is currently at 3:45 a.m. and sunset is at 8 p.m.

 

          The followers of any given religion range from non-practicing to fanatical weirdos, though I like to think most people fall somewhere in the middle. In the name of faith, we (believers in God) all do things that, for others, don't completely make sense. We argue over silly things. We can be hypocrites. We shift values when necessary. We judge even though we know we should not. But I would be lost without my belief in God and, therefore, regardless if it makes sense to others or not, I am accepting of fasting for over 16 hours.

 

          Initially, my thoughts were to write about the wonderful aspects of fasting and why Muslims and those from other religions fast. I wanted to write about my faith in God. So I went ahead and wrote a short piece and, as I read it back to myself, I realized how little it included my "true voice." I always like to give voice to the emotions that people do not like to vocalize.

 

          For example, I have always encouraged moms-to-be to ignore other moms who claim that every moment of motherhood is amazing. In fact, these other moms are more likely than not lying to you or lying to themselves. Motherhood is hard and it perfectly fine to cry, complain and realize you need time to yourself; this does not mean you love your kids any less. Similarly, I would like to talk about the tough aspects about Ramadan.

 

So why am I'm worried when looking forward to fasting? Well, let's summarize what a day in the life of a fasting Muslim mom could look like this:

 

1. Get up around 3 a.m., eat something nutritious and drink as much water as your bladder can hold. Dealing with your incredibly grumpy husband at that hour is far from a dream come true.

 

2. Try to go back to bed before it is time to wake up again.

 

3. Start your day and hope for least amount of interaction with Muslims who are suffering from tea/coffee and smoking withdrawal.

 

4. Respond to your kids 100 questions while your throat dries up.

 

5. Survive a trip to:

(a) the zoo where your kids want to stay under the sun instead of go to an indoor pavilion.

(b) McDonald's where your kids happily eat their happy meal while your tummy growls.

 

6. Deal with clients who want to chat endlessly while you manage your headache.

 

7. Prepare dinner without tasting the food (this usually results in "oops, I forgot the salt!").

 

8. Count down to sunset at least a dozen times.

 

9. Break your fasts and attempt to drink 8 glasses of water before bedtime.

 

10. Spend the night going to the bathroom on-and-off until its 3am-ish when you start back at 1) above.

 

 

If you think the above sounds easy, I dare you to try a day. We are in Ramadhan ... and I'm not ready to starve yet!

 

 

from: 

My Diary 

by: SAFIYYA

 

Sahar:Special Hours for Supplication

 

 

 

          Ramadan is a blessed month when the people of faith receive many bounties and righteous people compete in performing many good deeds and are determined to do every praiseworthy act. You can see many Muslims fasting during the day, endeavoring to perform other acts of obedience such as reciting the Quran, remembering Allah The Almighty frequently, invoking Him, asking Him for forgiveness, as well as offering food for people to break their fast when the time of Iftaar is due. All this is because of the guidance of Allah The Almighty.

 

          However, what is strange is that such good deeds virtually vanish at night, after the diligent person prays Taraaweeh (voluntary night prayers) after the 'Ishaa' (night) Prayer. What comes next? This is the question that we would like to address.

What do most people – the elderly and the youth, the women and girls – do during the last hours of the night in Ramadan?

We should answer these questions frankly. What are we Muslims doing during the last third of the night during the month of Ramadan?