How To Make Her Fall For You On The First Date, Jum RaOof [best biographies to read TXT] 📗

on. For some men romancing
comes very naturally, whereas others have to work for it. Being
romantic may sound very simple and fun, but, believe me, it’s sheer
hard work.
Romance is something very exquisite, personal and endearing.
Different people find romance in different things. For some, sunrise
and sunset is romantic, while other may feel candles add romance to
ambience.
Red is one color which is invariably associated with love and
romance. Red roses are the first thing that comes to a person’s mind
when thinking of his or her lover.
Music is a sure shot way of luring your girl friend and enticing her. In
romance people tend to do silly things, things which in their normal
routine they would find impractical and nonsensical. Being love
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struck in the public can be a very romantic gesture for your girl
friend. Show your feelings for her when in a group.
Compliment her on her looks, on her clothing sense and on her
personality. There is no single girl on this earth, who doesn’t like to
be praised, or is not moved by it.
Women are basically insecure regarding their physical appearance.
They constantly need assurance about their looks, and are always
fishing for praises and compliments.
Overwhelm your girlfriend by openly appreciating her every
smallest details, let it be her flawless complexion, her clothes and
accessories, her way of expressing herself, the way she moves or her
killing smile.
Give her compliment in front of her friends that can be a very sure
way of gaining her affection.
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Treat her like a lady. When with her be chivalrous. Open the car door
for her, wait for her to sit before you take your seat, pull out the
chair for her, and ask her preferences before ordering the meal.
Make her feel cherished and treasured. Keep her mesmerized by
making her feel the most important person in your life. Show
interest in her, not just in her looks or her physical attributes, but in
her as a person.
Give her the impression that you would like to know her deeply and
are interested in her as an individual.
Always make an eye contact when speaking to her. Look deep into
her eyes and give the impression that for you no one else except, her
exists at that moment.
Be sensitive and caring to her smallest needs. Ensure she is
comfortable and at her ease. She should have the confidence that
nothing can go wrong with you being around.
Be natural and spontaneous. Let there be an easy rapport in
between both of you. The time you spend with her, should be quality
time.
Number of hours spent together is of very little or of no
consequence if there are no compatibility between you two. It’s very
important that you gel with each other perfectly. Similarities in
personalities play an important role in bringing two people closer
and binding them with each other.
Respect her feelings and to her likes and dislikes. Give due credit to
her likes and dislikes.
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Be lavish with your gifts. Your gifts need not necessarily be very
expensive. Give small but thoughtful personal gifts.
When you go to pick your girlfriend for your date, take a rose for her.
It’s not a compulsion that you carry the whole bouquet. It is the
thought that counts.
Make an effort to know about her tastes and likings and gift her box
of chocolate or a bottle of wine that she usually enjoys. The smile on
her face would make it worth all the pains that you had gone
through while making the choice.
Girls, let it be of any age have always been fond of stuff toys. You can
surprise her by getting a cute, little, cuddly teddy bear for her. Every
little, small thought of yours brings you a step closer in making her
fall for you overnight.
3. Seduce Her
There is a major difference between romance and seduction. When
you are being romantic, what are involved are your emotions and
your feelings.
It is a soul searching process and tests your sensitivity and sincerity.
Seduction is more outward and physical. It can be grouped along
with lust and infatuation.
Though it is a fact, every woman wants and loves to be wooed and
cherished, but at the same time one can’t also deny the fact that
every person has specific physical needs of their own which needs to
be satisfied.
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Men have always been notorious for constantly having sex in their
mind, but women also carry hormones within them which make
them crave for physical intimacy.
Use this weakness in your favor. Flirt with her, tease her, seduce her
but remember, do not make any sexual passes on your first date
itself.
Convey to her explicitly that though nothing would please you more
than kissing and fondling her, but it is not lust that has attracted you
to her, it is her as an individual that interests you more.
You have to prove to her that you are different from other men. Keep
her in suspense. Talk with your eyes, convey in a subtle manner, how
much you are enjoying being in her company and how you long to
extend your date.
While talking, accidentally put your hands on her knees, or her
shoulders, lean towards her as often as possible, instigate her
desires, and then take a back seat.
Let her fantasize and lust for you. Don’t give her the satisfaction of
taking you for granted. Keep her mesmerized and guessing. In the
art of seduction, the hold that you have over your own and your
partner’s physical desires is the most powerful key to success.
Distance makes the heart grow fonder. Don’t give up to your lust,
keep her fascinated and at the same time at a distance. Act cool and
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unfazed, but keep building up the intimacy level.
Take baby steps, do not hurry. Make very clear to her how much you
treasure the time spent together. Try to be a role model. Though she
might want you physically herself, but at the same time your restrain
would make her respect you even more.
She would be highly impressed to know that it is her as a person that
is more important for you rather than just her body, because
generally with men it is the other way round.
Keep making innocent, nonsexual touches to keep her desire level
boosted, win her heart by displaying your maturity and your self
control.
Let her be addicted to you and at the same time overwhelmed by
your thoughtful gestures. You will find, all this would ease out your
work load for you, as she herself would show her desperation to
meet you again as in you she has found a very rare species ,a
commodity not easily available in today’s modern world.
Your patience and control of today will take you a long way with
your girl friend. Like I said in the beginning itself, girls are emotional
fools, little cajoling, some manipulation and they are ready to fall in
your laps.
4. Be a friend
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Let her relax in your company ,don’t pressurize or make her feel that
she has to prove something to herself and to you on this very first
date itself.
Be your natural self and let her also be at ease. Don’t let your first
date be a testing ground for both of you. Give her some space and
time to know you more and at the same time you also utilize this
time in learning as much as you can about her.
The basic ingredient for any successful relationship is supposedly
friendship. First and foremost, be her friend, her ally, her confidante.
Let her open out to you and talk her heart out.
Make very clear to her that you are not expecting any commitment
from her on this very date. Humor plays a very big role amongst
friends. Let your sense of humor be your biggest ally in winning your
girlfriends heart.
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Lay down the ground work and learn what turns her on. Make light
hearted conversations, be funny and jovial , keep her enthralled with
your talks ,don’t let any gaps come in between your conversation
,but at the same time make sure both of you should be an equal
participants in the discussion.
Don’t let it be one sided, else the other person starts losing interest
and their attention gets diverted and sidelined elsewhere. When
enquiring her about anything or asking something don’t sound
interrogative, which might scare her off and can convey entirely
wrong message across.
Your talk should be mostly positive, light hearted, relaxing, and
entertaining. Throughout the evening don’t discuss about anything
that is not of mutual interest, let it be people, or hobbies or friends.
Think of some common topics and stick to them.
Be a part of her family and her friends circle. Never say anything
negative about any of her acquaintances. Praise her in front of her
friends and family.
Gently and subtly at any point of time during the evening convey to
her that you would like to meet her family and her close circle of
friends.
This would give the indication that you are serious about taking this
relation further in the future and she is not just a passing fling. Also
ask her out for a Sunday lunch with your family. Any girl would feel
honored by this request. It would help making your date more
personal and special.
Even if not needed ask her advice on any of your personal matter so
that to make her feel important and valuable in your life and to show
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her how much her thoughts and views matters to you (you don’t
have to follow her advice).
Give her the impression that you totally believe in individuality and
would never dream of asking her to change her views or for that
matter herself for him. You like her as she is, and expect her to
remain like that forever.
It would make your image in her eyes go several steps up the ladder.
Tell her you believe in giving breathing space to every individual and
are not in favor of restricting a person’s growth or confining him or
her within any boundaries.
She would regard you with greater respect for your thoughtfulness
and your broad outlook. Be supportive of her views, her personal
feelings and her choice of life.
Let her know that you respect her as a person and value her
friendship at any cost. Emphasize on how much her being in life
means to you and how important and precious is your presence for
him.
Do not be shy in letting her know how eagerly you have been waiting
for this evening and how you don’t want this date to ever end and
cannot wait to see her again. Be a little melodramatic, it always
pleases a girl to see the emotional and vulnerable side of a man.
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It makes a girl feel superior to see the kind of hold she has over her
boy friend. Remember you have a limited time with you to make
your girl friend fall for you. So, use any method that you can dream
of to make her yours.
Nothing is wrong in love and war. So, go and fight your battle and
win your love. Your lady love is also dying to be yours.
5. Instant Connection
Sometimes it takes days or even months of lusting and drooling for
that something special to click or spark between two people, but in
certain cases there is an instant connection amongst them. Some
might even call it chemistry.
For it to happen it is important for both the boy and the girl
concerned to be on the same wavelength. They need to share some
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common interests or believes to strengthen their connectivity.