Simply Feminine � Surprising Insights from Men, Wonderly, Morgan [best ereader manga txt] 📗

Men love to see women wear feminine colors because they like to think of us as flowers that color their black-and-white world. Men wonder why so many women wear black, gray, and brown today. Think of the last time you saw a beautiful flower garden. Did you see any black, gray, or brown flowers? Only if the flowers were dead or dying.

While traveling in India in 2007, I observed Indian women dressed in silky, colorful saris. In a country of bleakness and hardship, these women stood out like beautiful flowers. One young woman wearing a gorgeous orange sari flowing in the wind caught my attention. She smiled as she posed for my photograph, clearly aware of her feminine beauty and grace.

For us as women, color impacts our psyche. Pretty colors lift our mood and brighten our day, while drab colors can affect us more negatively. How can we feel cheerful if we’re wearing such a serious color as gray? On the other hand, when men wear dark colors, such as black, gray, and brown, that represents masculine characteristics like stability, strength, and support. These serious, no-frill colors mean business. For example, a black, gray, or brown trellis provides a contrast to the flowering vine. When men see us wearing lifeless masculine colors, they wonder if we’re trying to hide or become invisible to them.

Sure, men love the little black dress. However, what they love is that it’s little and that it’s a dress! It shows off our legs, shoulders, neck, and back. If we wore a little pink dress or a little red dress, we would stand out even more from the other women in the room. The color men notice first is red.

We all have our best colors depending on our skin tone, hair color, and eye color. Some of us have higher contrast in our coloring—dark hair and lighter skin—while some of us have lower contrast—dark skin and dark hair, or light skin and light hair. Recognizing these nuances, along with having our personal color chart done, can go a long way to helping us select the most appropriate and congruent colors that bring out our true essence and natural beauty.

We want men to be drawn to our lovely faces, particularly our eyes and smiles. Choose colors and jewelry that draw attention to the eyes, lips, or hair. A blue top or scarf goes well with blue eyes (but should never be brighter than the eye color). Pearls bring out the color of our teeth and accent a beautiful smile. Rose pink draws out the hue in the lips.

Avoid wearing colors that clash with your natural skin tone. Skin with a lot of yellow will clash with blue-pinks. Find the right shade of pink that works based on your skin tone. Every woman has her best shades of pink and red, the romance colors.

As a style and color consultant specializing in feminine image, I understand the psychological impact wearing our best colors has on our mood, confidence and attractiveness to men.

“Black doesn’t flatter a woman. It’s as if she is hiding herself; it’s a disguise; it’s trying to appear smaller; it’s a fail-safe choice. Women aren’t taking advantage of accentuating their differences when they wear black. Black is either somber or intimidating.”

– Jason

Men Love Touchable Fabrics on Us

If we want to appear more feminine, we can wear fabrics that are soft to the touch. Men are drawn to the softness and delicateness of silk, velvet, satin, cashmere, angora, and sheer organza fabrics. When we wear these feminine fabrics, men imagine what it would be like to touch us. Men perceive stiff, rough, or thick fabrics, such as leather, corduroy, thick denim, and heavily starched cottons, as masculine and less touchable. Materials like these can give men the impression of a barrier that says attention is not welcome.

Men Love Us to Look Cute Even around the House

In my years as a style consultant, I have seen countless women’s closets. No matter how sharply women may dress for work or dating, most women neglect the way they dress when they’re relaxing at home or running errands. They tend to wear dull, colorless, lifeless, baggy clothes that detract from their beauty and their bodies. There’s no reason why we can’t look attractive even in our pajamas or lounging clothes. Even our cleaning clothes can be cute if they are the best colors and styles to fit our body type. It’s just as easy to buy a red T-shirt as it is to buy a gray one.

We know from experience that when we look good, we feel good. So why would we not choose to feel good all the time? Besides, if we’re single, we never know when a cute UPS driver might knock at our door, or when we’ll run into an attractive man in the produce aisle of the grocery store. I always say, why settle for looking like a four or five when you can look like a nine or ten? Men will appreciate it.

Men Are Fascinated by Movement

Moving objects capture a man’s attention. Because of their innate role as hunters, men can spot subtle movements from a far distance. When we walk, dance, or even wear articles of clothing that move, men notice. Dangle earrings, bangle bracelets, flowing skirts, and scarves will catch a man’s eye. The movement of our hair and our hips when we walk fascinates men.

Men enjoy and are often mesmerized by the sight of our walking and dancing. We tend to move in a more fluid, graceful way than men do. Being in our feminine movement is beautiful to men. Practice walking more slowly and deliberately.

Men Like Us in Simple Jewelry

Men are fascinated by women’s tasteful, simple adornments. Yet they don’t like us to wear too much jewelry because it steals the show and takes away from our natural allure. Remember, the picture frame shouldn’t overpower the work of art. When we wear a lot of jewelry, men see