Simply Feminine � Surprising Insights from Men, Wonderly, Morgan [best ereader manga txt] 📗

Men Notice Our Posture

One important attribute of physical beauty often overlooked and undervalued is posture, but our posture can make a significant difference to our attractiveness. Men view women who have good posture as being healthy and youthful in addition to having good breeding and class. When a woman appears slouchy, she appears less feminine to a man, and she seems to have lower self-esteem.

Some helpful tips:

Have a girlfriend point out if you’re not sitting or standing up straight.

Remind yourself throughout the day to keep your head up and shoulders back.

Imagine a wire above your head pulling you up straight.

Look at candid photos of yourself and observe how your posture looks.

Practicing yoga is a great way to improve posture.

Sexy vs. Classy Feminine Looks

Modern society has taught women that “sexy” is the new feminine. It’s nearly impossible these days to find a woman’s magazine that doesn’t have the word “sexy” on its cover. One woman I spoke with told me that it seems today’s women have only two choices: to be a man or to be sexy. If the options in women’s clothing stores today are any indication, I would have to agree with her.

If a woman is trying to get maximum attention from men with a seductive, plunging neckline and a micro-mini skirt, it’s true that she will successfully appeal to and arouse men’s desire for sex. As mentioned in chapter 3, men’s brains are compartmentalized. They have different compartments for seeking sex and for seeking a relationship or wife. So, when a woman is dressed in a sexy way, this appeals to men who just want sex and are not thinking beyond that.

Given these social trends, that’s why women who are seeking a long-term relationship are wise to choose a classier, more modest look over a sexy look. Men tell me that a woman who focuses on dressing sexy is not seen as feminine. In fact, dressing in such a way can even have a masculine aspect to it because she is being somewhat aggressive in an overtly suggestive way. There is nothing wrong with this arrangement, provided that’s all we want. However, dressing sexy is not a good fit for a woman with a more receptive feminine energy who wants to find a man who wants a long-term relationship that can lead to marriage.

Men view a modestly yet attractively dressed woman as mysterious, interesting, and alluring. Being feminine in a modest way means leaving no question you are a woman, while leaving something to the imagination. Modest does not mean wearing shapeless, boring clothing. Accentuating our womanly curves is important to men, and it can be done in a tasteful way. We don’t need to be poured into a dress. Modest dress awakens both respect and intrigue in men. The sense of mystery it engenders makes men want to learn more about us. We are a prize to be sought after and won. Revealing too much too soon takes the mystery away. We can see ourselves as a gift that needs to be unwrapped slowly as a man proves himself to us. We don’t want to go outside already unwrapped.

One example of a woman who exudes femininity in a modest way is Kate Middleton. Although she’s a member of the British royal family, she demonstrates a quiet class. Notice that she doesn’t wear large, obvious jewelry or loud, or complicated patterns. Her style is modest, tasteful, and congruent with who she is. Her dresses feature simple lines and feminine colors. The styles she wears flatter her figure, yet they appear modest. Even though Kate dresses modestly, she also gives off an unmistakably mysterious appeal, which men adore.

“My vision of femininity is a woman who has long hair and wears a simple sundress with semi-high heels, hoop earrings and a scant scent of perfume. Nothing is overstated. When a woman tries too hard to be sexy, it often backfires.”

– Rick

Girl-Next-Door Look

Another look that men often say they like is the “girl next door.” Who is this woman many men dream of? Hint: she’s not a Cosmo vixen. Men describe the girl-next-door woman as fresh, wholesome, natural, and sweet. She’s a minimalist in makeup, fashion, and jewelry. She doesn’t feel the need to attract attention by being flashy. She is not overdone or dramatic. She is approachable and secure in herself. She’s down-to-earth. The girl-next-door type of woman is not afraid to be a girl. Although she is secure in herself, the girl next door doesn’t feel the need to put herself on a pedestal. Consequently, the man in her life raises her up above himself.

“I believe any woman at any age can be a “girl-next-door.”

– Robert

Men Love Our Radiant, Healthy Looks

I would be remiss if I left health off this list. Good health is the basis of all radiant beauty. It’s vitally important to take care of our health if we want to be attractive to men. When we’re healthy, our eyes sparkle, our skin glows, our hair shines, and our nails are strong. Our weight is within a healthy range for our height and bone structure.

If our health is out of balance, we lose the vitality that makes us attractive from the inside out. Men subconsciously pick up on this. Women who need to work in this area can start with internal detoxification, supplementation, and drinking enough water. The foods we eat are crucial to our beauty. We truly are what we eat. Junk food is just what it says … junk. Eating it on a regular basis can make us less attractive over time. I recommend David Wolfe’s book Eating for Beauty.

Weight drops naturally when our bodies are given the right nutrients. It’s also important to add an exercise program by joining a gym, taking a yoga class, or simply walking in our neighborhoods.

“Just as the crashing waves caress the beach cliffs every day, relentlessly, and thus shape