Simply Feminine � Surprising Insights from Men, Wonderly, Morgan [best ereader manga txt] 📗

love watching women dance in a provocative way.

If you’re at that point in your relationship, do a strip tease for him.

Auditory (Sound):

Laugh, giggle, sing, or whisper in his ear; men love the sound of our voices, especially when we’re happy.

Moan in ecstasy when turned on.

Talk to a man softly, slowly, clearly, and calmly; it’s alluring to him.

The sound of an indoor waterfall can be calming to him after a hard day.

Find out what soothing music he likes and play it for him.

Use Pandora to explore endless music possibilities.

“Music is the mediator between the spiritual and the sensual life.”

– Ludwig van Beethoven

Olfactory (Smell):

Men don’t care for strong or cheap perfumes on women; they appreciate softer, natural oils and lotions. Ask your man about his fragrance preferences.

Men typically love the following natural scents: vanilla, sandalwood, lavender, musk, jasmine, and orange.

Uplift the home aura by adding essential oils or scented candles. Get the quality candles with natural scents; cheaper candles can smell artificial and even be toxic.

Prepare a delicious meal; one of the most intoxicating smells for men is the aromatherapy that comes from the kitchen while we are cooking!

“Men like the perfume a woman is wearing if it is sweet and faint. Faint is good because it’s flirty. Faint perfume subconsciously tells a man she wants a male (perhaps me!) to get closer to her, so that he can experience the perfume more vividly. Perfume can be exceptionally alluring to men because it triggers associations in their minds. In short, perfume done right is intimacy.”

– Robert

Somatic/Tactile (Touch):

He wants to touch and be touched by us.

He wants to feel our soft skin.

He wants to snuggle with us.

He wants our soft and passionate kisses.

He wants to feel our skin next to his at night.

He may enjoy having his hair shampooed or brushed.

He would appreciate a massage, even a five-minute shoulder massage, head massage, or back scratch.

He would likely enjoy giving a massage too.

If massage is your thing, invest in a massage table.

Take a weekend massage class together, or watch massage videos together.

Take a beginner Tantra class together, and learn the art of sensual touch.

Go out dancing with him, or dance in the privacy of your living room.

Gustatory (Taste):

One of the ways to a man’s heart is through his stomach; men tell me this statement is still true. Find out his favorite foods, and make them for him, even if it’s only once or twice a week.

For those who work full-time and don’t have a lot of time to cook, I recommend preparing simple meals in a slow cooker in the morning. When arriving home at night, enjoy a no-fuss but delicious home-cooked meal.

Men feel cared for when a woman cooks for them. Even if a man is a chef, he appreciates it when she cooks for him. Make it with love, and he will feel it.

Men say they don’t expect a woman to be a gourmet cook. We could simply open a can of soup, heat it, and serve it to him; he would be happy because he would feel cared for.

Bring an appetizer tray to him on a wooden cutting board; fill it with an assortment of cheeses, salami, crackers, grapes, and nuts.

Blindfold him and feed him sweet and savory bites with your fingers; try chocolates, strawberries, pickles, olives, or mint leaves.

Feed him orange segments with your fingers. Don’t worry about getting messy—he will love it.

Do a blind wine tasting for him. Open two or three wines at home, and then hide the bottles and have him guess and rate the wines. This is a fun experience that will leave him both engaged and relaxed.

“Eating is so intimate. It’s very sensual. When you invite someone to sit at your table and you want to cook for them, you’re inviting a person into your life.”

– Maya Angelou

On Sexuality

Of course sexuality is also a big part of sensuality and a very important one. However, in this book, I am choosing to focus on all the other wonderful ways men value and appreciate us, which I feel have not received enough attention. And so—I leave it as an exercise for the reader to study sexuality through other books and programs that cover it in depth.

Recap

Men look to us for the sensual pleasures and enhancements of life.

Men build the houses; we decorate them and turn them into homes.

In evoking the five senses, we reawaken our femininity.

Self-love is about taking care of ourselves first.

Take the time to have a sensual healing evening once a week or once a month.

Surround yourself with beautiful objects and fabrics, soothing sounds, healing scents, and tantalizing tastes for you and your man.

Even the smallest act, like drinking out of a pretty mug or water glass, can feel sensual.

Hang a beautiful picture near your work area that conjures up relaxation or ignites your passions.

Men are task-oriented, and women are relationship-, sensual-, and pleasure-oriented.

Our natural GPS system—our intuition—needs to be re-cultivated.

Explorations and Journaling

What do you enjoy most about being a sensual woman?

What sensual rituals do you already engage in?

How often do you relax? When was the last time you took time to do so? How did it feel?

What sensual rituals do you do at work, if any, to reconnect with your femininity?

How long has it been since you added color to your home or workspace?

List things you can do to bring added sensuality into your home/work life.

If you’re in a relationship, in what ways do you bring sensuality to your man?

Have you asked your man how he would like to be pampered/touched by you? If yes, how did he respond? If not, ask him and record what he said and what you did.

List some ways you could bring more sensuality to your man.

Do you dance for your man? If yes, how does it feel to you? If not, why not? Give it a try.

Do you listen to your intuition? How often? Do you trust it? Why or why not? Practice listening to your inner voice daily