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some way by parents, siblings, school, teachers, peers, church or the media?

Did you have the belief that masculinity was better than femininity?

Was there a time when you decided that operating from masculinity would be better? What prompted that decision?

Did you feel that you’d have more value by taking on masculine qualities?

How did your mother or grandmother view femininity? Did they embrace it, or did they deny it?

What comes to mind first when you think of the word femininity? What do you associate with that word?

Did your father or mother treat the boys in your family with the same respect as the girls?

What did you learn about being feminine from your mother?

How comfortable was she in her femininity?

How did your girlfriends feel about being feminine? Did they embrace it or shun it?

What did you learn from TV shows and commercials about femininity? About masculinity?

How do you feel when you hear the word vulnerability? Is it a scary or empowering word to you?

What did you learn from religion about femininity and being a woman?

What do you love about being a female? What is the best part of it?

What would you change about how our society views femininity and why?

If you understood that your femininity is your most precious and highly valued gift, would it change the way you view and express it?

Authentic Feminine Traits

Checklist of qualities to focus on when adding more femininity to your life:

Heart centered

Compassionate/Empathetic

Healing

Beautiful

Colorful

Flowing

Receptive

Kind/Warm

Nesting

Graceful

Life-giving

Relationship-oriented/Connecting

Lighthearted

Intuitive

Soft/Sensual

Adorning

Feeling-oriented

Responsive

Influencing

Girlish/Free-spirited

Notice details

Curvy

Needs to be seen

Wants to be adored

Nurturing/Supportive

Needs to feel safe

Complex

Radiant Energy

Full Spectrum of Emotions

Authentic Masculine Traits

Checklist of qualities to look for when seeking a healthy male counterpart:

Leader

Protector

Provider

Linear

Logical

Direct

Stable

Strong

Simple

Loyal

Persistent

Rugged

Decisive

Builders

Assertive

Hard worker

Dedicated

Steadfast

Focused

Reliable

Courageous

Driven

Nuts and bolts

Practical

Producer

Task-oriented

Built for speed

Angular

Sees the big picture

Needs admiration

Motivated to be heroes

30 Ways to Enhance Your Femininity

Soften your edges.

Focus on the love in your heart.

Practice being warm and kind to others.

Practice surrendering to life.

Relax more, breath deeper.

Be open to receive.

Be responsive to your man.

Show your radiant smile.

Be nurturing.

Wear attractive colors.

Create beauty around you.

Beautify yourself.

Feel gratitude for what you have.

Practice admiring men.

Move gracefully.

Accentuate your curves.

Laugh often.

Go Barefoot.

Choose to be happy.

Be lighthearted and playful.

Be curious about life.

Forget your age and be youthful.

Wear longer hair.

Practice sensual rituals.

Practice vulnerability.

Use your intuition.

Wear dresses/skirts.

Think girl-next-door freshness.

Practice the art of touch.

Be classy in appearance and attitude.

Tips for Staying Youthful at Any Age

Do what you love to do.

Smile and laugh often.

Relax often.

Keep growing and learning.

Take fun classes.

Exercise and stay fit.

Practice yoga.

Take up belly dancing.

Get plenty of beauty sleep.

Eat organic, whole foods.

Drink plenty of water.

Get all the nutrients your body needs.

Be optimistic and happy by reframing your stories.

Choose to see the good in everything and everyone.

Spend time with happy people.

Engage in uplifting conversations.

Make friends with younger people.

Express gratitude daily.

Wear pretty, feminine colors.

Wear longer hair.

The Trellis Is:

Sturdy

Simple

Strong

Directional

Supportive

Angular

Unmoving

Protective

Straight

Steady

Steadfast

Reliable

Stable

Structural

Purposeful

Unyielding

Solid

Plain

Uncomplicated

The Vine Is:

Beautiful

Delicate

Enhancing

Flexible

Vulnerable

Free spirited

Moving

Alive

Colorful

Playful

Flowing

Growing

Soft

Adorning

Graceful

Blossoming

Adaptive

Life-giving

Relaxed

Ways Our Femininity is Priceless to Men

We make them feel masculine.

We bring life to them.

We bond with them.

We are the color in their “black-and-white” world.

We bring flavor and variety to their lives.

We bring out their playfulness and humor.

We inspire them to greatness.

We bring out their protective natures.

We nurture them.

We provide them with children and family.

We bring beauty and adornment to their world.

We offer companionship.

We make it safe for them to feel and express their emotions.

Reasons the Masculine and the Feminine Need Each Other

For procreation.

For relationship.

For partnership.

For enhancement of each other.

For the experience of intimacy.

For our spiritual growth.

For our survival.

For companionship.

For fun!

Some Ways Men Cope with the Loss of Our Femininity

Football and other sports addiction

Internet surfing addiction

Internet porn addiction

Gambling addiction

Seeking women overseas

Casual sex addiction

Having affairs

Drinking/getting drunk

Drug addiction

Stays in relationship, but shuts down emotionally

Addiction to TV (action/violence)

Suicide

Ways We Unknowingly Emasculate Men

Verbally putting him down

Putting him down in front of others

Withholding admiration and appreciation

Withholding sex as a punishment or manipulation

Lying to him

Faking orgasms

Asking his advice but not taking it

Ignoring him

Not fully listening to him

Not acknowledging him

Belittling him in any way

Raising our voice to him

Rolling our eyes at him

Disapproving looks

Taking the lead in his area of masculine domain

Holding him as “guilty” just because he is a man

What Men Have Done for Us

Protected us

Provided for us

Done the dirty, dangerous, difficult jobs

Built our modern society

Been the pillars of our survival

Kept us from extinction

Risked their lives for us in work and in war

What We Can Appreciate about Men’s Masculinity

Their deep love for women

Their desire to make us happy

Their ability to make us melt

Carrying heavy things for us

Opening our doors

Rescuing us when we need it

Being bigger and stronger than us

Keeping us warm when we’re cold

Their linear thinking

Their inventions

Their engineering skills

Their building skills

Their loyalty

Their physical strength

Their math skills

Their laser focus

Their desire to protect us

Their desire to provide for us

Their reliability

Their ability to fix things

Their perseverance

Their dedication

Their decisiveness

Their good business sense

Their willingness to do the dirty, dangerous, difficult jobs

14 Surprising Things I Learned from Men

Men are more sensitive than we realize.

Men rarely, if ever, gossip.

Men won’t open up if we gossip.

One of men’s greatest goals is to make women happy.

Men need admiration more than they need love, or even sex.

To men, the prettiest thing we can wear is our smile.

Not all men are into large breasts.

Men know what’s feminine because they are the beholders.

Most men are touch starved today.

Men are capable of loving more deeply than we are.

Men need us to need them.

Men need to impress us.

Men don’t notice our little imperfections.

Men see our beauty when we often don’t.

Examples of What Men Do for Us

Men have done the vast majority of the dangerous, dirty, and difficult jobs. In addition, they have fought our wars for us, and many have died.

To gain a greater appreciation of men and their masculinity, I’ve created a partial list of some of the dangerous and difficult jobs men do for the sake of keeping our society running smoothly. (Note that there are some women who perform these dangerous jobs too. However, feminine-core women rarely, if ever, have an interest in doing them.)

Dangerous, Difficult, Dirty Jobs Men Do

Armored car guard

Atomic power and chemical plant worker

Bodyguards

Bomb squad

Bridge builders

Cement makers

Coal miners

Coast guard search and rescue

Commercial fishing

Construction laborers

Crab fishing

Crop dusting

Deep-sea diver

Demolition workers

Electrician

Farming and ranching

Fireman

Fire truck driving

Forklift operators

High rise window washers

Industrial machinery workers

Land mine