Bridge of Time by Missy (Volume 1), Presented by: SAGE [best beach reads .txt] 📗

its own. It bounces back with tenacity, with courage with bravery and it prepares itself for the next time it opens up again.. Oh that beautiful mysterious thing about a Woman’s Heart.. It is indeed admirable!


I firmly believe when a Heart is broken… It’s not in vain, it’s not weak and it’s not fragile. When a Heart is broken it is open in two… Like a door waiting to heal on its own and in the process of healing when a Heart is broken it’s cut in two leaves opening for a possibility, leave opening to a chance, a chance to heal on its own,  it leaves an open invitation for anyone who would help mend the pain,  it opens it eyes for new beginnings for a new opportunities to mend and feel again. Ah the mysteries of a Woman’s Heart.. So amazing!  As I am writing my material, I thought about the times I found my heart broken in pieces, I thought about the times my heart seemed to have failed me, only to realize, having it broken in pieces had only made me stronger, had only taught me wisdom, had only prepared me to leave that opening in the corner of my heart to heal and feel again.. This morning I thought about the boys in my younger years who broke my heart and I am so ever grateful for them for breaking my heart,  for proving themselves unworthy of the space I’ve allotted in my heart for them and most importantly for making my heart as strong as it ever did.


A woman’s heart …. Has a mind of its own, has ears and eyes of its own.. It knows when they are in the right place at a right time, with the right person.  I salute all my female readers this morning for I know your Hearts are as strong as it ever did.. To those whose hearts are broken, please remember.. You are not weak, you are not frail and you are only going through a process of becoming stronger, braver than you ever did before. I salute your Heart for its courage to face the pain, to feel the pain as these emotions are there for a reason.. to find your own Wisdom to prepare you for the next phase in your lives, for the next time you find your heart feeling again, beating again..
 

 
I personally dedicate this material to all of those who had broken my heart in pieces years ago thank you for the pain thank you for the hurt, thank you for helping me find my own wisdom and I thank you for helping me become the person that I am today if you had not broken my heart in pieces years ago … would not have found my Heart’s home today. And to my readers who can relate to this writing, Keep your heads up high things happens for a reason… What you are now going through is only a phase… may seemed unbearable at the moment, may seemed endless at the moment.. That too shall pass… You will bounce back, give your heart a chance to heal on its own time.. To each their own as one would say ... The Higher Power knows what's best for your heart.. The Higher Power gives us trials in life including broken hearts for us to find our own wisdom.



HEART'S DILEMMA (By Missy)

At some point in someone’s life he or she will fell in love with someone yet easily scared to speak of it, perhaps afraid to lose the friendship or any form of interaction with the person whom she or he fell in love with.  Some may say “I’d rather keep my feelings to myself than to lose the one I love”, others may say “I’m not going to take the risk of telling the person I fell in love with how I feel because I don’t want to be rejected.” At times I hear someone say “ Oh this feeling will go away, it’s best to keep in it than to be mocked or insulted” most of the time, I hear others speaking of their affection about someone to someone else and I often wonder how much pain and aching their hearts feel keeping such emotions bottled up?


Human hearts they say can easily get scared, everyone’s reason and excuses are all different, but it all boils down to being scared of telling someone how they feel afraid of being mocked, being rejected, being turn down, being laughed at. Wondering if they fell in love with the person they know, will they be treated the same way? Or will they be rejected?  Human’s hearts they say fears easy. I personally think, it’s the mind playing tricks on humans.  Our minds can process million thoughts by the second, it can whisper in our hearts “You can’t do this, you can’t do that”, “You will only be rejected if you tell that someone how you feel” Human’s mind can be very tricky, it can create chaos, havoc, confusions, wrong assumption, prejudice, biasness, injustice. It can instill pain, fear, sufferings, if one doesn’t guard his or her thoughts, it can lead that person to more sufferings not only in love but life in general.


Hearts scares easy, as one would say.  When someone fells in love with someone, fear of speaking or disclosing such emotions can be the hardest thing to face, so most people just keep it in, one may fall in love with someone who is not emotionally available, who is not physically available, others may fall in love with someone who is already taken these situations requires thorough consideration towards the other people involve, relationships, marriage or what ever it may be and yes, it can be very selfish if someone gets in the way of 2 people’s relationship to seek the affection of the other person, this situations causes more pain, not only to the 3rd party involved but to established relationship per se, these type of circumstances, one has to decide to either give way, let go or to keep the affection of love hidden towards the other person or pursue the other person’s affection and act in a selfish ways,  getting in the way of 2 people who love each other, breaks up relationship, creating chaos, stepping in other people’s toes, stealing affection, breaking up relationships or marriages for the sake of one’s own benefit only to find themselves unhappy in the end, feeling guilty, feeling remorseful. Feeling incomplete even after obtaining the affection they seek.


Then there are others, who may have fallen in love with a friend or someone they are acquainted with, yet their hearts are scared or their mind tells them otherwise. Sadly enough, there were many relationships out there which could have blossomed, which could’ve turn into something real, something good. But it is when one waits for the other to speak his or her emotions first that creates too much confusion, building a wall of doubt, or fear.  Some other people are brave than the others, some are more open to their emotions, some may not.  There are others who are not afraid of taking risk and there are some who lives their lives afraid of that risk.

 
When someone had fallen in love for someone else and had not spoken of it, they find themselves in a dilemma of having to watch the person they love falling in love with someone else. It creates an emotional chaos, it creates pain, it creates unhappiness, jealousy, envy towards the person whom the one they fell in love with is spending his or her time with. While the other person is clueless as to why one reacts in pain or anger, jealousy and all the negative emotions. This only creates a wall between them, it closes the window of understanding, it closes the door of communication until one feels his or her love is unrequited while the other person is left with questions unanswered.


Human emotions are never easy, while mind plays the trick the heart suffers. While the mind whispers “No, you shouldn’t fall in love with that guy or that girl” The heart keeps aching, when one falls in love, fear comes next. The endless “what if” whispered by the mind delays the heart from speaking for itself, it gets scared, it gets confuse, it becomes helpless.  In love or life in general, one always faces the battle between his oh her heart and mind.  Some people feels through their mind and others think through their heart. One always finds him or herself in a Heart’s Dilemma and in the process love slips away, questions remains unanswered, I guess the moral lesson of it all, is finding the wisdom in our search of love and happiness. Finding our own enlighten to follow the path which may or may not lead us in our own sense of completeness.


NOT YOURS TO CARRY (By Missy)

Sadly enough there are couples out there who enters a relationship carrying so much baggage from their past. Maybe an unresolved issue with previous relationship or love interest, maybe some dark secret he or she hasn’t told the other person before entering a new relationship, what ever it may be these ghost from the past will soon resurface in the present relationship leaving the other person wondering what happened or why the person they are with acts a certain way towards them. Some may even find themselves being told to express himself or herself in accordance to how his or her partner prefers to hear it, or be told to act a certain way, some may even find themselves being ask a tall order, something they themselves couldn’t comprehend, only to find out later in a relationship that they’ve been treated as an extension of someone else’s past in his or her current relationship. Finding yourselves in this situations are not normal, this things should not go unnoticed, although some may find themselves in too deep with their emotions towards their partner that they go blind and turn the other cheek until the pain started settling in and becomes unbearable. That or when one finds themselves in a toxic relationship.


Everyone deserves to live a normal life, what is normal to others may not be normal to some, but never the less, everyone deserves to be truly appreciated for the person they are, for their own uniqueness, their own individuality and they have the right to be loved and respected for the person they are and not an extension of someone else in someone’s past. Creating and re-creating the past in current relationship having the new love interest role playing the role of the person in previous relationship creates not only pain in the process, but it takes away the rights of that person to be love and cared for as he or herself. These toxic ways of loving someone is a predatorily behavior in fact it may even be viewed as displacement issue.  No matter what it’s called in a Psychology world or whatever term others may put to it, Someone’s personal baggage from their past should not be brought into a current relationship, because there are innocent people who will get hurt,  everyone wants to love someone, to be treated special, to share their affection of love to that someone and it is not only unfair but intensely wrong to have others suffer from someone else’s self inadequacy, failure in previous relationship or lack of disclosure from previous relationship or former love interest.


When you find yourself in these shoes, may you remind yourselves, Someone’s baggage from their past is NOT yours to carry, you should not be treated any less because