Cyclicality Of Causality: Book Of Life-Utility Ideas, Santosh Jha [have you read this book .TXT] 📗

for species survival and genetic excellence. Evolution embedded sexual drive in neural wirings to ensure that human excelled over other species. This evolution then created gender roles and suitable physiological as well as neural differences were created in males and females. This scheme of things required that men always looked for sex and women used sex as selection tool for best mating option.

Things have changed in modern cultures. Evolution’s game plan is no more valid and no more required as traditional gender roles have changed and in liberal cultural scenario, sex has lost its old and tested evolutionary purpose. Moreover, in modern living, humanity does not have the old challenges of survival and species proliferation, as we are many times more in numbers on this planet and have managed to live quite long. We do not need to go into details as everyone knows, how modern cultures have placed sex in a rather demeaning and diminutive imagery as fun thing, thrill-tool and time-pass activity, rather than a reproductive tool.

In modern civilization, where success of cultures depends on how intellectual self-control is exercised over instinctive drives, just the inverse is happening. Sex was once an instinctive drive, designed for species needs millions of years back. Now that modern human life-living situation and overall cultural advancement has made those needs obsolete, what we need is intellectual self-control over this powerful sex drive, which has lost its primitive usage. We need to accept sex in a totally different light and perspective.

Though, it is a long and complicated scientific explanation as how our brains have been designed in long years of evolution; we just have to know and accept that unlike other human organs, human brain is not a single organ. It is rather a cooperative of many parts, evolved during different times of evolution, with each part being an addition to the old one, not a replacement. Therefore, what we need to accept is that our brain is not doing this favour of intellectual discretion to us. It still has the primitive brain, over which the new parts have piled up. That is why our brain still has the primitive instincts and drives. It also has modern logical parts but brain is not doing any automatic pruning for us. We have to exercise learnt and nurtured intellectual control over our instincts. Both instincts and intellect are part of our brain mechanism but this self-control thing works well only when we have evolved a higher consciousness. Instinctive behaviours are auto-mode, intellectual initiatives are not. Therefore, the intellectual self-control needs to be inculcated and persevered through conscious practice. This presupposes quality lonely time with self.

No doubt, human inventiveness and human intellectual prowess are potent mechanism, which can engender so much novelty out of even a waste. Sex however is such a beautiful human experience. With applied human intellect, modern humanity and cultures surely can turn this obsolete sex drive into a highly beautiful, artistic and worthy entity.

There is this very subtle difference in cognition regarding so many life-living realisms, which produce two extreme causalities – extremely beneficial or extremely calamitous. This difference in cognition is about how we hit a poise of higher purpose between tangible as well as intangible elements of some realism. This needs to be applied in the domain of sex. The tangibles of sex and physical intimacies have a very limited purpose, which are now evolutionary vestiges. We surely do not need sex in its primeval tangible form. However, the intangibles of sex are unlimited and they offer us so many sunny shades.

The intangible elements of nurturance, mutuality, intimacy, cooperation, compassion, commitment, trust, etc are all very beneficial requirements for overall wellness of we all and all these elements must be made to ride on the tangibility of sex. Evolution has given us a vehicle, a medium, but what we carry on this vehicle is now the role of our intellect and higher consciousness.

Moreover, utility of intelligence must be accepted in its holism. Everything tangible has something intangible, which defines and architects the domain of its utility and purpose. Similarly, all intangibles have a natural tendency to get associated with something tangible, to find expression and utility. This cyclicality or call it causality of sorts is a very crucial learning for life-living wellness. Let us understand it...

It is said, a sharp weapon, like a sword is never kept bare; it has to be covered by some hard material mould. It is like; intelligence should never be allowed to remain bare and uncovered. And the ideal cover is a hardened resolve of compassion. If not, then both swords and intelligence are calamitous for both wielder as well as others...!

The other aspect of the idea is – the tangibility of sword is value-neutral and its worth becomes dangerous, if value-neutral sword is left uncovered and bare. A sword’s tangibility itself presupposes cutting and bruising. This tangibility automatically draws an intangibility of a subconscious mind, which likes to ‘cut-through’. That is why this intangibility has to be covered by another intangibility of compassion, to neutralize the auto-intangibility of the tangibility of a sword.

Similarly, intelligence also has this subconscious intangibility to ‘cut-through’. The other-way round is also equally calamitous. The intangibility of subconscious ego and innate instinct of ‘one-up-manship’ often rides on the tangibility of intelligence. That is why there is this need for conscious covering of intelligence with the intangibility of compassion.

There is no doubt that the world is becoming a better place to live as people are becoming better endowed, largely because of their better and greater intelligence. As life-living becomes tougher and more complex, intelligence surely bails us out. It is rather good news that overall, people across the globe are becoming smarter. However, intelligence itself lands people in larger trouble. Intelligence has this innate tendency to align with tangibility of more conflict and confusion. That is why, for modern life-living wellness, this intelligence needs to be covered up with this golden intangible of compassion.

Scientists duly warn that humanity as a race has become critically intelligent and this is the seed of possible extinction of race. The reason is – intelligence breeds more and larger conflicts within a race and that ‘cuts-through’ sanity and poise. That is why this sanity-call that swords and intelligence should never be left uncovered and bare.

Intelligence, no doubt is this effective tool to ‘cut-through’... to cut through troubles of life but as this tangibility of cutting-through exercise is egoistic and competitive, we all need to ensure that this intelligence is rarely left open, bare and exposed. This must be covered up with love and compassion, and especially with objectivity of resolve.

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Love

‘Who I Am’ Is Both Culprit Or Hero Of Unsettled Love Or Life

Though it is somehow ridiculously mystical to believe, reality is that whatever we accept and choose to keep with ourselves are expressions of this subconscious belief system of ‘Who I Am’. This belief system comes to play the lead role when we fall in love and often creates loads of troubles too. Unaware of this realism, for most, love often opens the floodgate of 3Cs – Confusion, Conflict and Chaos.

Science says, our brain, which is the central mechanism of our mind consciousness – this sense of ‘Who I Am’, is 85 percent environment and only 15 percent genetic. From childhood, our subconscious mind starts to imbibe loads of information from our ambient milieus and they subconsciously become part of our larger consciousness – this sense of ‘Who I Am’, which science refers to as Love/Belief System.

Therefore, in our adult lives, what we do and accept is often an expression of the intangibles, which are referred as Love/Belief system. So, when someone falls in love, the simple mechanism is that he or she has accepted this person of his or her love interest as part of his or her Love/belief system. Therefore, what is important in love is not the person, not anything tangible but the intangibles...

Suppose, you love someone; then you must ask yourself why do you love him or her. The answer comes – I love him or her because of this qualities and traits in him or her. Or simply, some may say, I love him or her as he or she makes me feel good. So, the entire idea is intangible, nothing strongly physical, even as physics of body is there. Still, what you like in his or her body or other physicality is often what you already accepted as part of your love/belief system.

Then, may be, later, you start feeling unsettled about the same love. You feel, the same person has either changed or you do not feel the same for him or her. What changes then...? The tangibles remain there as they were but the intangibles change. May be, your love/belief system changes and you no more feel at ease with the existing choices, you happily made sometimes back. You start to feel unsettled about the same qualities, which you liked earlier.

Or, the qualities, you loved in that person changes and you feel uncomfortable to accept him or her with his or her changed and newly acquired qualities. This suggests, the person in love, the tangibles remain the same but the intangibles change and that is why love becomes unsettled.

In contemporary youth consciousness, this question of unsettled emotions in love is very dominant and most young ones feel uncertain about it. Many feel sad and bad that their love interest has changed and is not the same. Many feel, they still love their partners but somehow also feel inclined to others. Many also feel that their partners do not cooperate in so many ways. This trouble of unsettled emotions in love can be better explained and understood with the help of the core idea of the sense of ‘Who I Am’....

Once you accept that love is nothing but an intangible expression of your own sense of ‘Who you are’, you can understand everything else in love. You need to accept that you love somebody as you already have your own love/belief system and this is there in your subconscious mind. The person becomes your love interest because he or she ‘fits into’ your already concretized love/belief system.

Simply put – you love somebody as he or she falls in linearity with your already settled belief system about good and bad or right and wrong. Somebody fills in, as he or she fits in to the shape of things, already crystallized in your subconscious mind.

As the person itself is the embodiment, the tangible or physical icon of the qualities and traits you have accepted as good and right, you feel you love The Person. The reality is – you actually love yourself, your own subconscious self, your own sense of ‘Who I Am’ and the other person you accept you love is just the external expression of that – an extension of your settled self.

Therefore, when you tend to feel unsettled in love, there can be two different situations –

Either, your own love/belief system has undergone changes and that makes your ‘Who I Am’ also change suitably. This make your love interest look changed. The symmetry and alignment is disturbed.

Or, the qualities and traits of your partner have undergone changes and that makes him or her out of the frame of your very dear love/belief system and ‘Who I Am’.

In both these situations, love tends to be unsettled. So, you have two ways out –

First, accept that your own love/belief system and sense of ‘Who I Am’ is right and perfect and you shall happily let go anyone, who is not in sync with this settled frame of your subconscious self....

Or, you can accept that love itself is the larger purpose and intimacy and mutuality surely has larger purpose, higher than this dogmatic sense of ‘Who I Am’. You can then accept compassion and accept that life and love is also about evolving and evolving this sense of ‘Who I Am’ and what better tool to do