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Don’t worry about sounding silly or overly excited. Don’t worry that you’ll come across as self-centered or bragging. If a man likes you, he won’t see it that way. Men tell me they adore girlishness in women, so they will see you as delightfully expressive, quirks and all. Remember that he feels happy when you’re happy. Men who care about you want to support your passions and desires. Your unabashed enthusiasm will excite them.

4. Smile Radiantly

A man once said to me, “A woman is only as beautiful as her smile.” Every man I’ve talked to agrees with that statement. Much of the time, and without realizing it, we women smile halfheartedly, if at all. A genuine smile comes from the heart, from joy and appreciation. An authentic, radiant smile lights up your entire face, causing your eyes to sparkle. It tells a man you’re happy to see him.

To see the difference yourself, practice your smile in the mirror and bring your smartphone. First try smiling halfheartedly in the mirror and take a selfie. Then focus a real smile from a happy heart. To accomplish this kind of smile, close your eyes and move your attention down into your heart. Focus on a time when you were deeply in love or received a wonderful surprise. When you feel that you have fully embodied that feeling, smile, open your eyes, look in the mirror, and take another selfie. Compare the two photos and notice the brightness in your face and the sparkle in your eyes in the second one. You’ll see the difference immediately. You’ll notice how much younger you look because this kind of smile gives an instant face-lift! That’s the radiant smile that melts men’s hearts.

This radiant smile is much easier to come by with an attitude of lightheartedness. It’s your birthright to lighten up, laugh, giggle, and bring out the little girl in you. Lightheartedness is a gift that not only benefits you, but the men in your life as well. Your sincere smile helps take them out of their serious workaday world. If necessary, review Chapter 7: Feminine Attitudes Men Love for ideas on lightheartedness. Find out what brings you the most joy and pleasure and start doing it.

Men say that many women today have become too serious. It’s a woman’s lighthearted, cheerful nature that better illuminates her feminine energy. When women lose sight of their soft nature, it hurts them. It hurts their health and well-being. It hurts their relationships.

5. Be Receptive

“…Love like you’ll never get hurt...”

– Country song, Come from the Heart,

by Richard Leigh and Susanna Clark

According to men, receptiveness is one of the most attractive and feminine characteristics we can possess as a woman. Unless a woman can be receptive, her femininity suffers. Much of our aging is not merely the passage of time, but by continually keeping emotional walls up to avoid getting hurt again. Being receptive is the opposite of being resistant. Being resistant to what a man offers may be the number one reason why women find it so difficult to attract and keep men.

A masculine man is very loyal and wants to connect with the woman he chooses to have in his life. So it’s discouraging when he finds himself on the other side of a high emotional wall of distrust. Letting go of past hurts is a critically important skill for a woman who’s serious about her femininity.

Other than a genuine happy smile, eye contact is really important in showing your receptiveness. Let him gaze into your eyes, and return that gaze. Let him know you see him. It was very common during my research for a man to mention how sustained, comfortable eye contact with a woman really pulls him in.

When you are with a man you trust, watch for his taking initiative, and find a way to gracefully be receptive and follow his lead. Be open to this, even if it stretches your comfort zone a bit. Showing you trust him will make you more attractive to him.

Men long to give to us, and they feel more masculine when we graciously receive what they offer, including being receptive to their protective and chivalrous acts. As your feminine essence evolves, receptiveness will become more and more natural. You will appreciate the relaxation that comes from letting go as you embrace the generous gifts a man offers to make your life safer, easier, and more enjoyable.

By learning the skill and art of feminine receiving, you will find more and more wonderful things showing up from the masculine men in your life. Receiving is an ongoing practice.

6. Allow Men to Be Your Heroes

Men love to be of service to women. When you allow a man to serve you, he feels like a hero, which makes him feel great. Letting him rescue you here and there also lets you feel more feminine, because you are getting your needs met, by a hero. Men don’t have enough opportunities to play this role in today’s “I can do it myself!” world. And so, they are delighted to help whenever they can. When a man offers his assistance, he is not doing it out of obligation. For him it’s a form of courtship; a way of being courteous and his way of showing respect. He feels fulfilled by helping a woman because it makes him feel good in the best sense. If his offer is rejected, he can feel let down. He longs to feel useful to you. He longs to impress you.

Never forget that a key aspect of the art of femininity is being receptive to the hero in your life. When the man in your life wants to do helpful or good things for you, be open to what he offers. If he wants to open the door for you, allow him to with a grateful heart. If he offers to fix something in your home, let him. If he wants to treat you to dinner, say “yes”