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depression is complicated. Creating (and even just watching) comedy can ease the symptoms of depression, but it's much more difficult to use comedy as a tool in dealing with the source of depression. It took me seven years of standup before I was comfortable talking about my anxiety onstage, and almost nine years before I started talking directly about depression, about having suicidal impulses, about feeling pathetic for struggling to do things that come naturally to most people.

Talking about these things has helped me – especially when an audience laughs, indicating that I'm not alone, that they're glad to know that they're not either – but it's not enough. In that time while I was learning to use comedy to address my mental state, my depression got a lot worse, and I started seeing a therapist again. Comedy can help you feel better, it can help you process things, but there is no replacement for professional help.

 

You don't need to be unhappy or depressed to be funny. People romanticize the connection, and that's extremely unhealthy; gives comedians an excuse not to seek help. Our culture needs to let go of its "tears of a clown" obsession and realize that depression is not a tragic superpower.

 

How To Deal With Depression

 

Benincasa: I was very fortunate in that my friends told my parents what was going on when I was in college, and we were able to address it as a family. I've taken medication for years, and done lots of therapy, and both things have helped enormously. I wrote a book called "Agorafabulous" about all this stuff, and it was tough to write because I had to remember all of the hard stuff I'd tried to forget. But it's important that people with depression come out about it and share our stories, because we can really help each other.

 

Jordan Carlos ("Guy Code"): Being a comedian means that you always wrestle with what's called "the god complex" -- little g of course. It's a fancy way of saying that, like a god, you have the capacity to create (laughter) and also like a god you have the capacity to destroy (yourself). Knowing that - understanding those impulses - has kept me from the ledge many, many a night

 

Distefano: I chose stand up at first to help deal with the pain. Instead of drinking or doing drugs to get over the fact my parents weren't together, or 9/11 gave me paralyzing anxiety, I chose to write jokes about it. I tried to turn my pain into art.

 

I don't think many people know, that usually comedians have to go into an extremely dark place to find the funniest material. I can't tell you how many times I've been writing jokes while simultaneously tearing up because in the process of going into my past to get the funny, I discovered the pain. The pain that I pushed down years ago, just came up. Only this time I'm older, and understand more, and feel every piece of it. Now I see the consequences of it. Now I see how that pain shaped me. For better or worse.

Most of comedy isn't funny. Most of it is watching a person show you their suffering in a funny way. Sit at a table of comedians after a show, more than likely we will be in silence. Buried in our notebooks or in our thoughts. Most of us didn't want to be comedians, we HAD to be comedians. My mind was leading me this way long before I ever took the stage for the first time.

I am in no way comparing myself to Robin Williams, or saying that I can even comprehend emotionally what he must've been going through. Rest in Peace brother, you were one of the true greats, and whether you knew it or not, you helped me find happiness at some of my darkest times.

Anyone out there dealing with depression, do not be afraid to go get help. Do not be afraid to cry. The most cathartic thing I do is cry. Let it all out. And keep it all out. Don't run from the pain, feel it. Just know there are people around who can help you. People who have been to the darkest depths and survived. You do not have to do any of this alone. Lean on us. I say again Rest in Peace to Robin Williams and prayers to his family and to anyone else who took their own life on account of this disease.

 

Kilstein: We need the weirdos, the artists, the sad kids. We are already down in numbers. We can't lose some of the only unique caring people we have left. I know it feels low. But know that you feel this way cause you are different and special. If people don't get you, good. Who wants to be like everyone else? Own that s--t. Surround yourself with good people. If you can't in real life, find them on Tumblr or Twitter, or podcasts, or comics until you can. Stay brave. Appreciate the little things you get from life and give. Keep making the planet a little less boring.

 

Towsen: Depression is a real thing. Naming it doesn't create it, make it worse, or make you weak. If anything it makes you stronger, braver. Having depression doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you, that you are flawed. It is simply one of the things that we deal with as human beings, and is something that gets much worse if we attempt to ignore it. Not everyone experiences depression, and those who don't should have the decency to realize they are lucky and be sympathetic to those to do. Those who do experience it should seek help.

There is still a stigma about therapy, which is entirely misguided, as therapy is a good thing for mental health, even in people who don't suffer from depression. A therapist is not someone who is going to analyze and diagnose you. They are someone rational you can speak to who can help you put your thoughts in order. Sometimes, they are simply someone who has spoken to a lot of people, and can tell you when your feelings are common, even if they feel isolating. You are not alone in this, and anyone who mocks you for it is probably more scared than you are.

 

Andrew Schulz ("Guy Code"): I've always felt the best way was to attack the depression. I have a little list of things I do:

 

1) Socialize with people I don't know. There's something about human interaction that I need -- especially laughing with strangers lifts my spirits. This can't be a comedy club setting. It's got to be part of my day. Online at Starbucks. At the gym. A two minute connection with a stranger can change everything.

2) Exercise until the only thing I can think of is my next breath. Once you put the brain in survival mood s--t changes. When you're depressed it's hard to find the motivation for that, but if you can push your body to the limit (cardio is good, a boxing class) there is an amazing release after. I do this kind of exercise at least 3 days in a row. The deeper the depression the more constant exercise I need.

3) Smile. I literally force myself to smile. It sounds stupid but it works.

4) Make lists of things to do and get them done. The feeling of accomplishment is rewarding. Feeling productive is great.

5) Talk about my feelings. This is more for anxiety but if there's something on my mind I have to let it out. The second I do I feel a release. If I don't feel comfortable talking about it I write on it. I write exactly what I feel and have a conversation with myself through the writing. It allows me to really explore my feelings and what's bothering me.

 

 

 

 

Note: YOu are not the only one suffering from depression

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

SELENA GOMEZ IS TAKING A BREAK FROM MUSIC TO RECOVER FROM ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION

 

 

 

Selena Gomez has been all about Revival for the past year, but now she’s taking a break to focus on recovery.

The 24-year-old, who announced last year that she battles lupus, is planning to take time off after suffering side effects from the autoimmune disease.

“I’ve discovered that anxiety, panic attacks and depression can be side effects of lupus, which can present their own challenges,” Gomez said in a statement to People on Tuesday.

“I want to be proactive and focus on maintaining my health and happiness and have decided that the best way forward is to take some time off,” she continued. “Thank you to all my fans for your support. You know how special you are to me, but I need to face this head on to ensure I am doing everything possible to be my best. I know I am not alone by sharing this, I hope others will be encouraged to address their own issues.”

Gomez first revealed her lupus diagnosis in a Billboard interview last October, after her canceled Stars Dance tour sparked rumors of substance abuse. “I wanted so badly to say, ‘You guys have no idea. I’m in chemotherapy. You’re assholes,’” she said at the time. “But I was angry I even felt the need to say that.”

Gomez is currently in between international legs of her Revival world tour, which is slated to run through December 18. She wrapped up her Australian leg earlier this month, and has shows scheduled throughout Europe, Asia, North America, and Latin America this fall and winter.

No word on whether Gomez will play any of those remaining tour dates, or how long she plans to retreat from the limelight, but hopefully she’ll come back feeling healthier and happier than ever.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

  

 

 

 

Chapter 10 - Die

Note: By not changing... not accepting the change... soon ... very soon you gonna die from depression... It won't make you feel better.... porn... porn won't get you happiness it will give you a feeling to crave for more and more and more. Today doing it... won't be the end... it will be just the point of the beginning... and it will continue. 

 

 

1) No Kid: Should get a book which shows that porn is good... it teaches you that and that

- The truth is... 

 

Sex is always rough The same content won't satisfy you forever You gonna crave for disgusting things Your mindset will be feeling for more

 

2) Life is Rough: Porn makes it more rougher than it's for real

 

 

 

 

- You just feel helpless... distant... depressed

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Emotionally locked

 

 

 

 

 

But yeah!

 

 

 

Porn looks like:

 

 

 

- She is hot...hot as hell!

 

 

and that:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

- Everything looks great... it looks like they all like it

 

 

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but we just miss the fact that they don't like it

 

 

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1) First of all male porn starts.... and female porn stars have 1000 of orgasm... they do it... at least each scene for few times

 

2) Pornstars look like:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

But in the end

 

 

it happens that

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Note: Yeah you had your day... you were happy... you went home and you started watching porn from one ... comes another... few hours have passed and you are already watching deep shit +