How to Talk to Anyone (Junior Talker #2), DeYtH Banger, Clive Cooper [i read book TXT] 📗

attracted to you, but as the host you’ll also have plenty of opportunities to talk to them. In fact, the women will come talk to you.


If you have a nice apartment or house, you can use your place to host the gatherings.


If you don’t have a big place, you can host your gathering at a restaurant or other location.


I’ll give you some more specific ideas later.


But first, let me share with you the exact steps of how to set it up.


Step 1: Choose a type of gathering that would be appreciated by the groups you joined.

Choose a gathering theme that both you and your group like.

This is important. People are more likely to come if it’s something they like.


If you joined a gym with group activities, a chess game is probably not the best choice.


So, pick something that fits with the likes of your group.


Here are some examples to inspire you:


• If you are doing acting classes, chances are good that people might be interested in movies with good actors. You could rent a cinema room on closed days. Rent it exclusively for you and your guests, and do a movie evening with some old movies with the best actors. You can negotiate a pretty good deal, because you’ll go on days or times when it’s normally closed to the public.


• BBQ at the beach.


• Beach volleyball.


• An outdoor bar with a nice chill vibe.


• Visiting art galleries.


• Or just a good old-fashioned dinner.


These are just some examples. I’m sure you can come up with even better ones for your unique situation.


Step 2: Invite a few of your closest friends.

Invite your closest friends first

Before you invite any people from your group activities, first invite some of your closest friends. Invite three or four friends and make sure to pick the ones that are the most fun.


Also, tell each of your friends to bring one extra person.


The reasons you start with your closest friends are many.


First of all, it gives you a core group of people that you’ve known for a longer time. It gives you a safe base for the gathering. They will make you feel more comfortable.


Second, you’ll be sure that there are already enough people coming. Let’s say you invite some people from your gym group to a beach BBQ and only one or two come.


Well, you don’t want them to arrive and see that you’re just by yourself. That doesn’t really portray you as a cool guy.


So when you already have six or seven people present, there’s social proof and more value for the people you invite.


So make sure to invite a core group first.


Step 3: Invite people from your group activities.

Invite people from your group activities

Once you have your core group, you are ready to invite women from your group activities.


But don’t just invite women—also invite some men. You don’t want those women to show up and see there’s nobody else there from the gym. That might make them suspicious.


Here’s how you invite people to your group activities.


Just tell them you’re hosting a gathering and tell them what it’s about.


Let’s say you’re talking to a woman at the gym. You could just say this:


“Hey, you seem like a fun and friendly person. I’m hosting a beach volleyball gathering next Sunday afternoon. You are welcome to join, and bring some of your friends.”


You see how easy this is?


You’re not asking her out on a date.


You’re inviting her to a gathering, and you are inviting her friends as well. The fact that you also invited her friends makes it safer for her and will increase the chances of her accepting.


It also means she’ll bring her female friends. And guess what? If she’s beautiful, her friends will usually also be beautiful. But there’s more.


If she’s your type of woman beyond her looks, chances are her friends are too. Like-minded people tend to become friends.


If you invite a few women like this, and they all bring their friends, here’s what you get:


A cool social gathering full of fun and filled with your exact type of women!

Invite women and tell them they can bring their friends. If she's beautiful, chances are her friends are too.

And you’ll be the leader. You’ll be the center of their attention.


Now, don’t worry.


That doesn’t mean you need to become some kind of extroverted entertainer.


Not at all. You’ll just be there chilling with the rest of the group and you’ll have your close friends with you.


You can have nice deep conversations with just one or two people at a time, and then do the same with some other people. You don’t need to be talking to everybody at the same time.


In fact, it’s a big advantage to not talk to everybody at the same time like an extroverted guy would.


The reason being is that it makes you more scarce.


When you talk to one of the women, she gets validation from you just because you chose to talk to her. Yep, it’s that easy. Especially since you are the leader.


Now, here’s the interesting part. When you stop talking to that one woman and start talking to another woman, she will feel just a little left out, and even become a little jealous.


I’m not talking about over-the-top jealous behavior, but just enough.


So by talking to one woman and then talking to another woman, you’ll install a natural push-pull effect.

By talking to one woman and then talking to another woman, you’ll install a natural push-pull effect.

She’ll feel validated when you talk to her, but a little left out when you start talking to other women.


As a result of this, women will start putting in more effort to talk to you.


There are so many attraction triggers at work here.


First of all, you are the leader. Second of all, you have pre-selection social proof.


Pre-selection states that women are more attracted to a man if they know other women are attracted to that man.


And guess what? When women see other women talking to you at your event, that’s pre-selection. It triggers attraction like crazy.


Third, because of the push-pull effect you naturally create when individually talking to different women, they’ll start to work harder for your attention.


This extra effort or investment they make will make them even more attracted. Women don’t put effort into men they’re not attracted to.


Okay, so you’re on your gathering, you’re the leader and you’re talking to women. Now the big question is:


How do you actually take it further with them?


I mean, you can’t just make a move there in front of everybody.


First of all, the other women would see it. If you were to do that with different women, you would quickly be labeled as a player.


And they’ll even figure out that you are hosting these events as a funnel to get women.


So how do you do it?


How can you make sure you set up one-on-one dates with as many women as you want without being labeled a player?


It’s simple.


You’ll be doing the EXACT opposite of what every other guy is doing.


Instead of setting up dates or asking for their number, you’ll GIVE OUT YOUR NUMBER.

Instead of setting up dates or asking for their number, you’ll GIVE OUT YOUR NUMBER.

Here’s how you do it.


While taking to women, there will be opportunities to ask them to get in contact with you.


For example, let’s say you’re talking about a topic that both of you enjoy.


You could say this:


“Hey, you know what, that’s an interesting thing you said there. Why don’t you text me about that we’ll talk some more about it?”


Usually they’ll say: “Well, I don’t have your number.”


Then you say: “You have your phone or something to write with?”


Next, she’ll take out her phone or a pen and paper and you just give her your number.


That’s all there is to it!


Now, think about this.


You can do that as many times as you want. You won’t be seen as a player because you’re giving out your number. You’re seen as the cool guy. The leader.


Oh, and if you are doubting that this will work, let me tell you: it works wonders!


You will be surprised when women start reaching out for you.


And guess what? When they reach out to you, THEY ARE CHASING YOU!


From there, it’s easy to set up the date.


Don’t make the mistake of starting a long texting conversation with women once they reach out.


Just make sure you set up the date quickly. Like almost instantly.

Don’t make the mistake of starting a long texting conversation with women once they reach out.

Here’s an example of how that might go:


Her: “Hey, Nick, it’s Aurore from the beach volleyball last Sunday. How are you?”


You: “Great! What’s up?”


Her: “Not much, just watching some TV show”


You: “So, I guess you want to get together?”


Her: “So self-confident, huh?”


You: “I’m available Monday or Thursday.”


Her: “Thursday would be good.”


You: “Happy cocktail bar. 8 pm hudson street 89.”


Her: “Okayyyyy”


You: “Dress sexy 

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As you can see in the example, I go for the date pretty quickly. That’s how it should be done.

Remember, she’s reaching out to you. She’s into you. She wants to see you. Give her what she wants. Don’t ruin it by texting too much at this point.

ConclusionBuilding a cool social circle that fills your life with exactly your type of women doesn’t need to be hard.

In fact, it’s easy and can be done in just 63 days.

The first step is to train your brain to be more social by just greeting people.

The second step is to join groups where your type of woman would be.

The third step is to host gatherings with themes that your groups would like and invite people from your groups.

Because you’re the host, you’ll be the leader. This will make women attracted to you, and they’ll be the ones chasing you.

From there on, you just give out your number instead of asking for their numbers.

As a result, you’ll have women contacting you and CHASING you.

 

 

 

Special Thanks to Nick Neeson

 

 

 

 

 

 

Chapter 5 - Anxiety (Getting Out)