How to Talk to Anyone (Junior Talker #2), DeYtH Banger, Clive Cooper [i read book TXT] 📗

situps at home? In theory this works, but practice is different. Say you decide not to buy the gym membership and resolve to work out at home. Excuses always turn up. One day the weather is bad so you don’t run. The next day you come home tired, turn on the TV and never get up. Without a monetary investment to lose, there isn’t pressure to perform. By investing in a gym membership, you’re not just buying a place to workout, you’re buying motivation.

 

In effect, you become your own employer. When someone is hired, an employer pays for office space, a computer, training, etc. If that person doesn’t produce, the employer loses money. That’s why he also pays a supervisor to ensure the employee works hard. If you decide pay a consultant or personal trainer, you hire you own supervisor. By investing money in your goals you become employer and employee.You have something to lose if it fails and everything to gain if it works. It’s harder to be lazy when it means wasting your own money.

 

This strategy can be applied to any goal. When I decided to create this website, I started writing articles and bought a domain name, but without a significant investment my motivation fluctuated. I nearly abandoned this pipe dream before I put down $200 for a year of hosting. I could have gone month to month, but I knew it would take a year to build traffic. With that money spent up front I was committed. I also had a new resource. Seeing my articles published online was a tangible sign of progress. I also bought a great book on CSS(aff) and a Wacom Tablet(aff) to develop my web design skills and improve the looks of the site. These are all assets that enhance the site and provide reasons to keep working.

 

Any savvy entrepreneur will tell you that it takes money to make money. If you aren’t willing to spend a nominal sum to further your cause then how committed are you? By all means be frugal, but look at the big picture. Free resources are great but you can’t rely on them alone. What is the worth of a $30 book that helps you make thousands in the long run? Spending on valuable assets that grow your business is the sign of a wise investor.

 

We’re only human. We have good intentions, but our willpower can fail us. Over time we wear down and need an extra push. Don’t let the fear of wasting money prevent you from investing in your goals. If you know you want something, invest in it financially and mentally. Give yourself a resource and a reason to push yourself. Don’t be afraid to make a mistake. One great investment can make up for scores mediocre ones. With hard work you’ll make back the money you spend, but you’ll never be able to get back lost time.

 

 

 

 

 

How To Change Your Brain

 

 

 

 

It’s no secret anymore. Porn is addictive.

There is a ton of research that points to this conclusion. And those trapped in the vicious cycle of porn addiction know all too well. They know how hard it is to walk away from pornography when it seems to be the only thing that makes them feel good. They know how damaging it is to relationships, and know how isolating of a behavior it is, even when they’re surrounded by people who love them. Many people feel like there is no hope for the future, like porn has inflicted permanent damage and that it is impossible to break free.

That is simply not true.

Here at Fortify, we have the mission to help people who are already struggling and let them know that there is hope. An addiction to pornography CAN be overcome. Permanently. And here’s why:

 

Your brain is plastic.

 

“Plastic” comes from the Greek word plastos, which means molded. When something is plastic, it means it can change shape.

Scientists used to think that once the human brain reached a certain part of development, it stopped growing and changing. They believed, as the old saying goes, that “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks.”

As it turns out, Harvard research shows that it is possible for the brain to change and develop no matter how old it is. The brain is an ever-changing thing. Your brain is made to change.

 

Check out this study as an example:

 

Researchers took a group of regular people and taught them to play a five-finger piano exercise, causing them to develop new motor skills and use different parts of their brain. They had to learn how to do the exercise perfectly and at a regular tempo. At the end of each practice, they had to take a test.

 

Before and after practice each day, the researchers would place a large electromagnetic coil against the subjects’ foreheads to stimulate parts of their brain with electric currents. Their fingers would naturally respond to these currents by twitching or making small movements.

 

As the subjects continued to practice the piano and develop that part of their brains, it required less electric stimulation for their fingers to respond, and their fingers would respond to a greater degree even though they were being stimulated less.

Basically, their brain had changed. By continuously doing something, (in this case, playing the piano) it was activating new parts of their brain and new pathways were being formed.

Pretty cool, huh?

 

Well what’s not cool is that porn also changes your brain, in a negative way. Continued exposure to porn will make you want more porn. You will gain a dependance to it. You will need more of it. You will need more hardcore versions of it. Your brain will encourage you to go back to it because it knows that it makes you feel good. All these things happen because the brain has been changed due to porn use. And before you know it, you are having a hard time stopping.

But the brain can change. Through continued practice and effort, you can change your brain back. And it can be a lasting change. Due to nueroplasticity, the harmful effects of porn will fade away during recovery and eventually disappear all together. It is a process, and it takes commitment, but it can be done.

Bottom line: your brain can heal and recover. No matter how hard it may seem.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Chapter 6.1 - Action (Part 2)

Why I Had Sex w My Son’s Ex-Girlfriend…

 

 

 

 I know…

It sounds terrible.

But I had a damn good reason to
sleep with Mariela.

MONEY!

You see, my son bet me $200 bucks
that I couldn’t do it.

He dared me to try.

And I couldn’t resist the temptation –
because Mariela was HOT…

22 years old, bleached blonde hair,
smooth skin, and a fat delicious
Mexican ass.

How could I say no?

Plus, I needed the cash.

Luckily, I already KNEW that Mariela
was into older guys…

Thanks to my son and his idiot ways,
Mariela had quickly become disenchanted
with guys her own age.

I also noticed a few less obvious “signals”...

Signals that screamed...

“I want to be with an older man!”

 

 

 

 

The surefire SIGN she's attracted to you...

 

 

 

Yo, wussup dude?!​​​​​​​

Today I'm gonna do something that I haven't done for a while (for some reason), but always enjoy doing...

 

 

 

And that is a Q+A.

It's Friday, and I want you to be able to take this value and immediately apply it to your life as soon as tonight.

As you may have figured out by now, Patrick James is all about delivering the value that is immediately actionable #RawDatingAdvice

(I also have an important question to ask you at the end of this email, so read on...)
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Let's begin...

Question #1: "I'm starting to realize how huge it is to have that aura of being entitled to all the good sh*t in life. What are the best ways to truly cultivate that, to where you just believe that you deserve the best? Thanks for the advice pimps."

Here's the thing, you've got to understand about being entitled, and confident...

NOBODY is 100% confident.

Not me. Not you. Not the girl who blew you off. Not even Donald Trump.

Everybody has a little bit of an ego, and where there is ego there is insecurity.

Here's one of the greatest truths that you can ever hear: Only fools and saints are totally and absolutely secure about themselves.

[Ok maybe Donald Trump does have 100% confidence in himself...]

And I'm assuming that you're not a fool or a saint, so the trick is to Fake It Until You Make It.

And if you think about the word "confidence" logically, then you'll realize that you can never be 100% confident until you've actually achieved what your goal is, or you've won the race, or you've made the game winning shot.

However, up until that moment [and even after the moment is gone] all you can really do is have "certainty".

Certainty that you WILL achieve what you set out to.

Certainty that you ARE the best person suited for the job.

Certainty that YOU are the f*cking man.

And how do you do that?

Through repetition, after repetition, after repetition...

Conscious practice is the way.

Do you know what made Michael Jordan so damn successful?

You see, most people think that what defined MJ was the 22 game winning shots at the buzzer, 6 championship rings, NCAA championship, and closers mentality...

Not at all.

What really made MJ successful was all those days where he woke up at 3 AM to make sure he got to the gym several hours before anyone else.

What really made him successful was the millions of times he practiced and MISSED the exact same shots that made his career so noteworthy.

It was all the stuff behind the scenes.

He knew that he had practiced a lot harder than anyone else in the world, so that when they called on him to hit the game winner, he was absolutely confident in his ability to rise to the occasion.

THAT'S how you cultivate the feeling of confidence, and entitlement.

A little personal note...

Most people don't know this about me, but my entire life up until the age of about 21-22, all I wanted to do was play professional basketball.

Every single day, I'd imagine my competition out there practicing, and it fueled me to work even harder, and practice even longer, because I wanted to have the competitive edge.

But here's the thing...

Whenever I stepped onto a basketball court with anyone, for absolutely no reason at all I always believed that I was the best player on the floor.

I don't care who I'm playing against... I have the irrational belief that I am the best.

If I was playing against Kobe Bryant, I'd still believe that I'm gonna win.

To some that sounds completely irrational, but to winners like me, MJ, Kobe, and maybe even you...

That's how we think. We never accept the possibility that someone will beat us.

We're either gonna win, or we're gonna die trying.

It's Certainty, and it makes all the difference.

Question #2: "What are the things you do to keep making progress on your path?"

Here's exactly what I do to stay on my path...

First, I mindstorm all the things I want to achieve or do in the next 3 months to 1 year.

This entails literally getting out a sheet of paper and for about 10-15 minutes listing everything